Expressing feelings, including negative emotions, is a big part of the human emotional experience. But, we avoid negative emotions …for four basic, and very intuitive reasons:
- They are unpleasant
- They represent getting stuck in a rut
- They are associated with a loss of personal control
- They are perceived (generally correctly!) as having social costs.
That said, we can and do want to deal with these emotions in effective ways. All emotions, positive and negative, can be seen as information for us. (Kashdan & Biswas-Diener, 2014)